In order to start the day and be at my best I want to feel at my best with the right perspective. How we feel and what thoughts we have influence our behavior. I fully admit I’m not a morning person and because of this I’m made a change in my morning routine in order to change my perspective and give my kids a fighting chance at having a more patient mom in the morning. Before I even step one foot out of bed I pray and ask God for help. I need lots of it.
Now you may not be a religious person and that’s okay. You don’t have to pray or believe in God to nurture your spirit. By spirit I’m talking about the non-physical part of you that’s the seat of your emotions and character. How do we nurture that?
Parents of RAD kids, especially their mothers can end up with secondary trauma, or PTSD as a result of caring for their children. Some of the behaviors can be so difficult and so extreme that these parents feel alone when they seek help and understanding and don’t get it.
Nurturing our spirit might mean getting help if we are already experiencing PTSD. It could mean making an appointment with a therapist, talking regularly to a trusted friend or family member or joining a support group of parents who also have RAD children. It could mean doing a brief meditation each day or a few times a week to clear your mind.
If you don’t have big chunks of time to yourself, then try and carve out little pockets of time to nurture yourself with the things you love and the things you need in order to keep going in body, mind, and spirit, and keep surviving this journey with your child.
You can do this!